That ago old adage that I’ve heard since birth uttered from parents, “This is going to hurt me more than it hurts you” IS TRUE! Be warned. Be afraid. Be very afraid. Parenting is not easy, but it is worth it 27 gazillion times more than the pain it brings. Yesterday was the first time I lived through “this is going to hurt me more than it hurts you” from the parenting side of the equation. Details need to be kept to a minimum, but a HUGE decision was made by my husband and myself that not only affects one of our children, but is one of those examples to all of our children who will remember forever, “When mom and dad ask you to do something… they mean it.”
I think I cried more than the child did. My husband called a couple of times throughout the day and asked, “How are you doing?” not how is the child doing. The child will be fine… and stronger for it, we hope. I was a mess. I always want to be known as the dream builder, not the dream crusher…. but sometimes when we see discrepancies between what we have taught and how the child is behaving…. dreams have to be put on hold. We have to go in reverse for a bit and re-learn a few character issues that were obviously taken too lightly. Delay is not denial… I learned that from my baby sister. It applies here. Delay is also dumb when we are not getting our own way… which leads us back to character issues AGAIN.
This reminds me of when my mother, in a flustered and frustrated situation, would tell us, “Go to your room and holds hands with yourself.” When I became a mother, I completely understood the meaning of that. I changed it up a bit for the next generation and have been known to relay loudly, “Go to your room and pray to Jesus that He makes you nice. And don’t come out until He does.” It’s all good.
It’s all about character. How you behave when no one is watching is KEY. Priorities are KEY. Being obedient is KEY. Not just for our kids, but for all of us. Blessing follows obedience…. every stinkin’ time. God is so good.