Posts Tagged ‘Cali’

The Bonding Meeting

November 30, 2010

(This photo has nothing to do with the bonding meeting.  I just thought it was adorable!)

Today we drove back into the booming city of Cali, Colombia for our bonding meeting to see how Nora is doing.  We had to wake up at 6:00 am, WAY earlier than any previous day!  In light of this, we put Nora to bed early.  But before she went nighty-night, I sat her with me in front of the computer to use Google Translator.  It is a marvelous device!  I type in what I want to say in English and then I can either read it to her in Spanish, or push a button and a nice lady who can correctly pronounce all the words reads it aloud.

I told her that tomorrow is very important because they are going to ask us if we want to keep her forever as our daughter, and we are going to say yes!  I also explained that they will ask her if she wants to leave Colombia and go forever to the United States with us.  With head bobbing, she replied, “Si! Si! Si!”  She is so cute!

Also before she went to bed, I asked her to get her clothes ready for the important meeting with ICBF (social services).  She dug through her neatly stacked clothing until she found the shirt and pants that she arrived in the day we met her.  She also picked out the same sandals and sweater that were two of her minimal worldly belongings that she brought to her new family.  I didn’t really care what she wore!  Clothes choices are so not an issue for me, unless you plan to have your underwear stick out above your jeans…. THEN I have an issue.  As we were driving into Cali, I realized that she left everything that we brought for her.  I wondered if she thought she was going back?????  This poor child!  Does she understand “forever”?  Does she get it that all we have is hers?!?

This meeting did not go down without a mishap, as is common in the Crosby family.  While we were answering questions about what Nora is eating, how she is sleeping, how she is behaving, and if she calls us Mama and Papi (which she does)…. Keeve (affectionately also known as Heeve) deposited his breakfast into a potted plant in the hallway outside of ICBF.  NICE!  Makes a mama proud, you know?  Keeping the floor clean.  Totally thoughtful!  That’s my boy!

Now our papers are assigned to a court and we should finalize the adoption on the 15th of Dec. in the nick of time before the courts close for a month of holidays.  It’s two weeks or partying now!  Viva Colombia!

“As it happened….”

November 20, 2010

(Thank you, Jane)  As it happened…. we read the new report on the same little chunk of darlingness from Cali, Colombia.  She is healthy, happy and hearty.  The new pediatrician was favorable of the new report and helped us with where to go from here.  Her final statement to me was, “Make your decision and wait for your miracle!”  Oh, I loved that… almost as much as “As it happened” which means God has been Jehova Sneeky again.  Always working on our behalf, knowing what’s best for us and our family…. beyond what we can imagine or think.

We accepted the referral for Nora, but she has asked us to change her name….. but we don’t know if she means her first name, or middle name or last name.  So we don’t really know what to call her at this point.  “Zaza” still pops out because a nickname of 3 years….. sticks.

We were at peace with the decision and figured we would travel to get her on Jan. 15th when the Colombian courts open again.  But NO!  We are traveling THIS Thursday… yes, Thanksgiving Day, to go get our little girl.  I’m in shock.  Real life shock where you have to take a nap because you can’t figure out what to do first.

A friend of mine showed up today with her notepad.  She said she would decorate our house for Christmas while we’re away and she needed instructions.  She also is going to pick up my newspapers and keep my coupons up to date while I’m gone.  This is a true friend!  Another friend showed up with huge cookies.  That’s a true friend too.  Meet the basic needs in times of stress.

AHHHHHHH! We leave in five days!  So, I’m re-doing Nora’s scrapbook, since the original photos are outdated.  I ran and got my hair cut and colored, since we need to take a close-up photo of Rick and I and we’re not supposed to change our hair before we meet Nora on FRIDAY!  She is attaching to this photo on Monday!  My wise-cracker of a daughter looked at me yesterday in the height of excitement and frazzledness…. bed head, no make-up and sweats… and said, “We should probably take your picture like this since this is more likely what she will see every day.”  Very funny.  Very true.  But not going to happen.

OK, I’m off to count suitcases and see if my boys have pants that fit them.  Prayers for peace to reign in our home would be much appreciated.

Once Again…. I’m Not Sure I’m Ready!

September 26, 2010

My brother and his wife went away this past weekend to celebrate their anniversary up in the cool mountains.  (Side note: it’s STILL supposed to be over 100 ALL week!)  BAH!  Anyway, we have had their boys, ages 5 and 11, for some of the weekend when they weren’t at Grandma and Grandpa’s house.  The five-year-old is almost six… so he’ll be very close to the same age as his new cousin, our little Colombian princess, who will be 5 or 6.  It was a good reminder for me to have him stay here, to kick-start my “Oh yeah, I’m going to have a 5 or 6-year-old child again” thinking. 

We went to church and I was NOT prepared with a purse full of fishy crackers and gummy worms, like a good Auntie should have been.  I had gum, three colors of pens and the back of a printed piece of paper to color on.  (I did have a Nintendo DS, but I didn’t show that to him.) He managed just fine.  Before we went into the service I asked him if he had to go to the bathroom.  He said, “Well, we better, just in case.”  Good idea.  Then we stopped in the cafe and bought him some orange juice, just in case too.  I grabbed a tidy little package containing a fork, spoon, knife and napkin, just in case too. 

Five-year-olds ask the best questions!  He asked if spoons cost more than forks because they are a “dinky bit” bigger?  He asked why I didn’t pay for the utensil package.  He asked if I could hold his juice bottle because it was too cold for him to hold.  He asked how we were going to find Uncle Rick because it was dark in the sanctuary when we eventually arrived.  All valid questions.

He didn’t open his juice at all in church.  He just colored with three colors on the back of my printed page.  He didn’t stand for the “singing part” because he was “just fine sitting.” 

It all got my mind a-wandering again.  Will our girl be able to sit in church quietly?  Will our huge church be overwhelming for her?  Will I be sitting in the five-year-old class all year?  Will I remember to take her to the bathroom before we arrive? Am I too old for this?  Am I ready for this?  I’m not sure at the moment, but I’ve been known to rise to the occasion more than once in my life.  {smiles}

This is referral call week.  Bring it on!